Tomorrow is Halloween, and I still don’t have pumpkins. Although this is not the typical me….this IS typical of my life. A day late and a dollar short, yeah, I think that phrase was first uttered the day I was born. But, do you know what? I don’t even care. Are my kids going to remember that one year that we never made it to the pumpkin patch (or every year if thats your story!)? No. They are going to remember that I sat in the bleachers every night of the week watching them play volleyball & football this time of year. They are going to remember that I stood in the rain and freezing cold, and screamed the loudest when they scored a touchdown. They are going to remember that I watched their every serve while studying spelling words with the younger kids. They are going to remember a lot of things about me, but chances are, they aren’t going to remember all of my failures.
As Mommas, we are soo hard on ourselves. We walk through our day expecting to be perfect, but we weren’t made to be perfect. If we were perfect every moment, how would we teach grace, forgiveness, and perseverance? Could we teach our children how to rise after falling, if we never fell ourselves??? I don’t think so! We have to cut ourselves some slack. Don’t apologize or feel badly if your Halloween costumes were purchased at Walmart the night before. Don’t feel less than if you still have your Christmas tree up at Valentines. Instead of feeling unworthy during these times, celebrate. Turn that frown upside down (okay, corny) and adopt an optimistic attitude. You will not only have less stress in your life, but you will teach your children to relax and embrace their differences.
Perfection is all over. Magazine covers, television shows, social media… Everywhere we look, people look flawless, skinny & well dressed. Their homes are always organized, clean and well decorated. Heck, the fireplace is always on! We haven’t used our fireplace in 2 years! We live in a world where everyone is trying to be perfect, look perfect, and act perfect….but no one IS actually perfect! We all fail. Set THAT example for your family. Show them how to not only learn from their mistakes, but to embrace every little part of them that is imperfect. Those are the qualities that make them special, unique and important. The Help is a great book, if you haven’t read it, you should! One of the famous lines from the book is “you is strong, you is beautiful, you is important”. This applies to each of us. This is a line we should tell ourselves daily, as well as reminding our children.
Halloween begins the long stretch of the holiday season, this is the craziest time of year. School events, parties and concerts, work stuff, time with friends and family, etc… LOTS of opportunities for failure! Be the change this year. Be the difference. Stop feeling small – and start seeing all of the wonderful things going on in your life. The beautiful decorations that you put up for your family to enjoy. The seasonal weather, special recipes, and the extra social events. It all adds up to be an exciting time.
You is strong, you is beautiful, you is important.